Elopements are becoming more and more popular.
Why? What exactly IS eloping? How do I know if it's right for me?
There are several factors that play into why couples choose to elope, but first, let’s talk about what an elopement is. If you google, you’re going to get answers such as “sudden and secretive” or “without parents approval” - which is really outdated. As elopements become more popular, the meaning has shifted to the reflect the desire of a non-traditional wedding experience. Eloping means tearing up the wedding tradition “rule book”. No cookie cutter ceremony. No putting on a show for guests. It truly makes the the union about the couple without the financial and societal pressures. Eloping provides absolute freedom, allowing you to commit your life to your partner in a manner and setting that resonates with your individuality.
“So, if I elope, I have to do it suddenly and in secret?” - absolutely not. Your day of celebration can look however you want. Just you, your partner, and an officiant (or not). Or you can invite a few close friends/family and say your vows on a beautiful mountain top. The options are truly endless. Elopements are typically sought after by couples who desire intimate vowel exchanges and have the freedom to be 100% themselves without the show-case of a traditional wedding.
Why choose to elope?
Privacy, adventure, nonconformity, less stress, less planning, less financial stress, and the valuing of experience over material objects. That’s a long list! But truly, it encompasses a variety of reasons why couples choose to elope. No twelve month wedding planning, no guest list arguments, significantly less financial stress, the ability to be authentically yourself without conforming to wedding traditions. Does this list sound like you? Maybe we should talk more about what you actually want your wedding day to look like!
What are the disadvantages of eloping?
While there are pros... there is always an opposite - cons. Eloping isn’t for everyone. If you truly enjoy the party setting with all of your friends, neighbors, and their dogs... an elopement will probably not fit your wedding vision. Someone who struggles with people pleasing may experience a lot of undue stress choosing to elope. If you are an individual who values wedding traditions, an elopement will probably bring regret. It’s important to be self aware and know where your priorities lie when it comes to planning your day.
Are elopements expensive?
The average traditional wedding in the US costs approximately $30,000 and the average guest count is 117. The cost of eloping can be anywhere from just your local courthouse fees to spending around the same as a wedding on an amazing trip, experience, and photographer. Elopements mean you get to spend your money how YOU want. Whether that be a plated dinner for each of your guests or spent in a bucket list location getting the dreamiest photos that look like you’re published in a magazine. You get to decide.
